|Ready to Ramble is a blog feature here on Tomebound
where I discuss or, to be more accurate, ramble on about a wide array of topics regarding books.
To start this post I want to greet you a very…
First thing I would like to address the notion that romance is exclusive for girls and the reason why it just doesn’t seem to meld well with me. Ever since I was a kid, I liked stories about love and happily ever after. I am a self-proclaimed hopeless romantic, which is kind of weird for some people because I am a guy.
Majority would comment things like “you should be reading action novels because that is for boys” or “that’s so gay” which is the most discriminating, politically incorrect, and annoying statement ever.
|And that’s the damn truth.|
To clarify things, I am a straight guy who personally enjoys reading about love and romance. However, why does people generally think that liking anything related to this is exclusively feminine? Not all men are focused on machismo. There are guys like me that find joy in books written by Sophie Kinsella and Rainbow Rowell.
Reading should be an open avenue for everyone regardless of gender, race and sexuality. The judgment has got to stop once and for all.
Now that my little rant is over, let’s get on with the main gist of the post. Why do I think that guys in general should read romance/contemporary novels? My answer is really simple, it gives you a glimpse of what goes on in the minds of a girl.
You guys might be thinking, “I could read books like The Hunger Games or Divergentwithout cringing at the cover or a title of the book.” I do agree that these wonderful books have strong and independent female leads, but (in my opinion) the dystopian setting they live in kind of compromised certain aspects of their personalities in an extreme way.
Contemporary romance novels on the other hand focus on our own reality and the heroines of some of these novels are like ordinary people. The voices and situations a contemporary romance protagonist goes through are more likely to resemble what happens in real life.
That is why if you want to acquire a deeper understanding of girls, then reading a good contemporary romance might be the key.
By reading this genre you can get into the head of a woman and see for yourself, what they like and what they hate. Take Becky Bloomwood, the feisty heroine of Sophie Kinsella’s Confession of a Shopaholic, it is obvious that she likes to shop. But by reading the book you will be able to get where she came from and you will be able to understand her character, which in turn can help you better understand the urge of some women to shop.
Also, you will be able to tell what women like in men. These novels would plot out the romantic relationships of the characters and you can take some cues within the pages of the book.
Hopefully this post will encourage guys to read contemporary/romance novels so that they could learn a little bit about girls or at least stop judging their fellow bros who likes this kind of thing.
Suggested Romance Material:
Confessions of a Shopaholic by Sophie Kinsella – For guys who want to understand girls who love shopping.
The Undomestic Goddess by Sophie Kinsella – For guys who want to better understand some workaholic girls.
Fangirl by Rainbow Rowell – For guys who want to know more about bookish and shy girls.
The Summer I Turned Pretty by Jenny Han – For guys who would like to understand girls that are considered “one of the boys.”
NOTE: This method of understanding women is not 100% foolproof. Effects may vary with the personality of the girl.
What are your thoughts regarding this? What romance books would you like to recommend to men who are interested to read/learn from it? Please do post your comments down below!